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Why Are People Purposefully Stupid?!

November03/ 2017

Dear Donovan: Why are people purposefully stupid?

Dear B. Hamlett: While that question can lead one to believe that this is inclusive of all humans, I’m almost certain the individual asking is speaking in general regarding many of whom they have come in contact. I believe much of these conclusions have to do with our perception of a person. Many times we compare others to our own knowledge and abilities. When they don’t quite measure up, we judge them as stupid. Often, we don’t know anything or much about that individual. We base what they should know or how they should act on their age, others they may know or those they are related to. I encourage people to genuinely get to know the person or more of the situation before casting a final verdict. What you learn may very well surprise you. It may give you a better understanding of that person and allow you to have a bit more patience with them. We could very well be getting upset or catching an attitude with someone because we ourselves don’t know any better…a.k.a. stupid. If their lack of knowledge is the reason of them not knowing or doing better, than make the time to be a guide, a mentor, a teacher. Make a difference. After all, we are our brother’s keeper.

Now, there are those who we are knowledgeable of their circumstances, influences and experiences. We know that they know or should know better, they just act like they are stupid. Nevertheless, they have the right to do just that. It is called, “the freedom of choice”. We have the freedom of choice not to get entangled in their stupidity. That’s the beauty of having the freedom of choice. More often than not, a person who tries to assist or reason with a person who is being purposefully stupid ends up getting pulled into the same pathetic state of being purposefully stupid. I remember reading a poster years ago that said, “Never argue with a fool, some may not know the difference”. I never forgot that. The same principle applies.

So, if a person is being purposefully stupid or is just uninformed, how we respond to it will determine whether we make a positive change or become part of the madness.


As far back as I can remember I have enjoyed writing, drawing, coloring, singing and playing the piano. I have often referred to these creative outlets as my ‘therapists’. It was that safe place where I could pour my soul out without having to feel ashamed, embarrassed, foolish or judged. It is still a safe haven for me today. I never intended for my work to be read, recited or seen by anyone other than myself. It never crossed my mind that it would even be of interest to anyone other than me. My first recorded poem dates back to 1976 where at the tender age of 9, I sat at my parents’ dining room table to pen a poem of appreciation for my mother and father. During my junior year in high school I was required to write poetry for various English assignments. Much of my poetry was written during my high school and college years. It wasn’t until I was in college when a friend of mine read one of my poems and wanted to read more that I learned that my writing was something others could relate to. She was flabbergasted when I told her that I didn’t keep them and that it was just an avenue that allowed me to exhale. She strongly encouraged me to start saving them. Since then, the thoughts and feelings expressed through poetry have served as the “diary” of my life. I have found it amazing to see how my writing style, vocabulary and thought process have evolved over the years. The Inner Voice brings to account some of the love, sadness, infatuation, bereavement and triumphs that I have experienced over the years. It also permits me to share some of my finer “Hallmark” expressions. In addition to writing poetry, I have been inspired to write articles on social issues, respond to commentaries and concerns written in blogs, and give my humble opinion on private matters when asked. Some of these writing I have decided to include in this book. It is my hope that the thoughts and words shared in this book will be that by which others can not only relate to, but be encouraged by and enjoy.

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