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1-2-3… Live Stress Free!

November03/ 2017

So many times as humans we tend to complicate the simplicity of life. We often end up carrying crosses unconsciously, and sometime consciously, that doesn’t even have our name on them. We find ourselves agitated, complaining and scratching where we don’t itch primarily because we allow ourselves to suffer from the “hero syndrome’. While it is noble to be concerned and lend a helping hand to others and certain situations, we must use keen discernment as to the battles we embrace lest we find ourselves crippled by taking on an unwarranted debilitating yoke.

I have come up with a formula that drastically reduces stress, at least it has for me. I apply it to every adversity and challenge I encounter. If you are concerned about others thinking or speaking unfavorably of you, don’t be. People will think and speak what they will regardless. That is something out of our control. I prefer to live my life in peace (stress free) while I am here to enjoy it than R.I.P. knowing nothing about it due to allowing others and situations to take me to an early, untimely death caused by stress.

Here is my 3-Step process to eliminating stress:

1.) Identify the root of the problem/issue: So many times we stress and complain of a challenge we are facing when we were the one to invite the situation into our personal space. While it is unrealistic to think we can bask in a stress-free existence, the most attention a problematic situation should receive is the search for its true identity. Many times we waste our energy trying to get rid of the symptoms instead of the problem. (For example: if you keep on getting hung up in a spider’s web, stop getting rid of the web and get rid of the spider.) Then move on. DON’T STAY THERE!

2.) Create a list of options to rid the problem: Once you have identified the “true source” of the problem, transfer your energies to find a resolution to the problem. Make a tangible list if you must. (For example: Find the most effective way to get rid of the spider. Will you beat it to death with a shoe? Spray it with Raid? Drown it? Call the exterminator?) List the options as you believe them to be the best, most effective and quickest solution to the last resort. Once this is completed, transfer your energies into action, get it done. Once again, KEEP IT MOVING!!

3.) Eliminate the problem: Take action! Once you have killed the spider, let it go. You do not have to keep going back to make sure the spider is dead. When you have given 100% to the 3-step process, than there will be no need to doubt yourself and you can move on. If you are concerned about not having a challenge to deal with, you can let that go too. As long as you are above the dirt, you will be met with challenges. And if you don’t learn how to resolves the ones you have, they will accumulate. I repeat…LET IT GO!!!

The experiences in our lives are for us to learn from not to live in. If you have given your absolute best and haven’t been able to resolve the problem, then it wasn’t yours to resolve. LET IT GO! All the worrying, stress, lack of or excessive appetite, loss of sleep and wrinkled continence will only bring additional challenges, not improve or change what you are stressing about. Follow these three steps for a better quality of life. LET GO AND LIVE.

You will discover as a result that life is rather enjoyable when you don’t have to carry a cross that doesn’t have your name on it or try to control anything outside of your power to do so. Following this formula for stress reduction will allow you to see your blessing more clearly and embrace them instead of your vision being clouded by stress and discouragement.

~ Donovan Simons


As far back as I can remember I have enjoyed writing, drawing, coloring, singing and playing the piano. I have often referred to these creative outlets as my ‘therapists’. It was that safe place where I could pour my soul out without having to feel ashamed, embarrassed, foolish or judged. It is still a safe haven for me today. I never intended for my work to be read, recited or seen by anyone other than myself. It never crossed my mind that it would even be of interest to anyone other than me. My first recorded poem dates back to 1976 where at the tender age of 9, I sat at my parents’ dining room table to pen a poem of appreciation for my mother and father. During my junior year in high school I was required to write poetry for various English assignments. Much of my poetry was written during my high school and college years. It wasn’t until I was in college when a friend of mine read one of my poems and wanted to read more that I learned that my writing was something others could relate to. She was flabbergasted when I told her that I didn’t keep them and that it was just an avenue that allowed me to exhale. She strongly encouraged me to start saving them. Since then, the thoughts and feelings expressed through poetry have served as the “diary” of my life. I have found it amazing to see how my writing style, vocabulary and thought process have evolved over the years. The Inner Voice brings to account some of the love, sadness, infatuation, bereavement and triumphs that I have experienced over the years. It also permits me to share some of my finer “Hallmark” expressions. In addition to writing poetry, I have been inspired to write articles on social issues, respond to commentaries and concerns written in blogs, and give my humble opinion on private matters when asked. Some of these writing I have decided to include in this book. It is my hope that the thoughts and words shared in this book will be that by which others can not only relate to, but be encouraged by and enjoy.

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